so I've been skimming this blurb and just had to mention something not addressed here
if you want a lower output, without affecting the "bit perfect-ness" of the signal, you can lower the output level to 1 V or less is you find these loudness wars music to overdrive your equipment
However, keep in mind that this affects only the analogue output, and not the coax or s/pdif outputs
There's also ways to have your software adjust levels, but again, not with a "bit perfect" output
I was using plexamp and seen they offer such a setting, to "normalize" levels